Coping With Post-Dismissal Blues

Ok, so you've been laid off. It happens. Perhaps more so in this tough economic climate, but certainly it happens all the time.

People get fired every day for every reason imaginable. Companies downsize, streamline, synergise and your company's chief priority is to keep itself commercially viable; keeping you viable is not its responsibility at all despite what some managers may tell you. That is the harsh reality. Whatever the case, remember that you are not alone.

Besides, it may not be about you nor even your competence. Just like a relationship break-up, your dismissal does not mean that you're worthless or that you were deemed not good enough to retain. Often, the real reason could be personal or even arbitrary - if your boss wants you gone, he will make sure it happens. It may have very little to do with your values as an employee. Your boss could have been intimidated by your talent and was concerned that he could lose his job and you could be promoted. It could be a personality conflict. Or maybe company objectives or development paths have changed and your job doesn't match those changes. So stop speculating; that's sure to drive you nuts. And don't be ashamed; your value as a worker hasn't changed.

The important thing here is not to waste time or burden your peace of mind by dwelling on the dismissal, on the why's or how's. You will need a positive frame of mind in order to do your best at job interviews, and preparing yourself for those is probably the most crucial thing now.

But though you should not over-analyse the reasons for your dismissal, you should think about the lessons learnt from your stint at your former company. What mistakes should not be repeated at your next workplace? Could you maybe build more business contacts? Network more with your colleagues? Gossip less and learnt more? Acquire new skills while on the job? Go for part-time classes? Be more open to new responsibilities or courses because you can learn something from every experience?

In order to perform your best at job interviews, you need to feel your best. So instead of clogging up your mind with worry and pessimism, take the timeout as a break for you to spend more quality time with your loved ones, catch up with old friends, take up a new hobby, and so on. Don't be too quick to judge these as frivolous time-wasters; remember that opportunity can knock anywhere and in any form - just keep your eyes and ears open fro them. Be curious, ask, enquire!

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Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd