Your Recovery Rate

What is your recovery rate? How long does it take you to recover from actions and behaviours that upsets you? Minutes? Hours? Days? Weeks? Even years? The longer it takes you to recover, the more influence that incident has on your actions, and the less able you are to perform to your personal best.

Just ask yourself.

"How many times have I become upset with my spouse for something the children did hours ago?"

"How many times have I missed an opportunity because I was still focused on an upset and all I could say was 'no' to everything?"

"How many times have I driven my car erratically because I was still thinking of an incident that made me angry?"

The faster you let go of an issue that upsets you, the faster you return to an equilibrium, and the healthier you will be. the best example of this behaviour is found with professional sportspeople. They know that the faster they can forget an incident or missed opportunity and get on with the game, the better their performance.

Here's a method you can try to reduce your recovery time.

Imagine yourself to be an actor in a play on the stage. You aim is to play your part to the best of your ability. You have been given a script and at the end of each sentence is a full stop. Each time you get to the end of the sentence you start a new on and although the next sentence is related to the last, it is not affected by it. Your job is to deliver each sentence to the best of your ability.

Now think about your life. Imagine that life is no more than a play, and we each have a role. Your job is to play your part to the best of your ability. Each incident you face is a new sentence. Just put a full stop behind it and start again. Accept that every time you meet someone or have a conversation with a a person on telephone or even send an email it is a new incident.

You have both moved on since you last met, so remembering the last occasion only keep you in the past and stops you moving forward. Stops you seeing new opportunities. The next time you see the person that upset you is a new occasion. There is nothing to be gained by continuing from where you left off. The incident has finished. You are both in a different place now. It is a new sentence, so start again.

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Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd