Envy happens to us all. When we perceive qualities we deem to be superior to our own in others, it's normal to feel dissatisfied. But what do we do about this discontentment? Do we allow it to fester and reveal itself in hateful forms?
While we are busy being bitter what the other person is doing, they are busy pursuing their own lives. They are chasing their own dreams, improving their minds and bodies and so on. So while they get the results they want in life, we remain stagnant... paralysed by our frustrations.
So if the green eyed monster is frequently taking bites out of you, here are some ways you can get rid of it.
Take time to get to know yourself better. Instead of squandering your precious time on other people, identify your own talents and strengths. How can you develop them? The more you understand your true emotions and desires, the less you would want anyone else's life or success.
Work continuously to improve yourself. People are not born perfect or superior to others. But successful individuals have the ability to stay open-minded and acquire or enhance their skills.
Understand that everyone is different. There are attributes in others you could not possibly possess no matter what you do, but in the same way, you have wonderful qualities nobody else has. Remember, always focus on your advantages.
Measure success in your own terms. A CEO may earn tons more than you but do you really want his life? His workload, his responsibilities, his duties? You can be successful in your own way.
The reality of life is that no matter how powerful, rich or successful you may become there is always going to be someone on top of you. But, do not forget, this rule can also be applied the other way too. There is always someone less fortunate than you. So appreciate what you have.
And go relentlessly after your dreams. Once you achieve some of your goals, your self-esteem will receive a boost and the less space you will have in your life for the green-eyed monster.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
