When we're new to the game, conventional wisdom may instruct us to start small and act modest, charge less and compromise ourselves to meet the client's demands.
And many continue like this for years. We think that we will get more gigs because we're "nice", we're "flexible" or we're "inexpensive". But are these simply euphemisms for being "timid", "easily bullied" and "cheap"?
Many of us are not making the leap from novice to professional or from mediocre to iconic simply because we keep selling ourselves short. all indicators may suggest a high level of competence, knowledge and experience on your part, but because you don't take yourself seriously, you think that others don't take you seriously either.
As a result, you take on any client you can get, agree to work when you'd really rather not, reduce your fees and your terms just to please your client, and offer freebies and so on when the client doesn't seem immediately interested.
You may think that this will make you the "easier", "less expensive" and therefore more popular option, but the message that you're really sending out is that you're desperate. By continually offering discounts, you're also suggesting to people that your quality is not good enough.
If your client is not paying you your full fee today, it's unlikely that he'll pay you your full fee in future. Nor is he likely to recommend you to others. The message of mediocrity that you send out via your attitude and rates will doom you to a lifetime of insignificant returns.
So chuck out the "mediocre" mentality today and start behaving successful. Whether you're really "successful" or not, start behaving that way! It's the attitude, the way you carry yourself, and how much you yourself value yourself that will catch on with you clients and others.
Just think about it, if you really were successful and in high demand, then you would be charging more for your precious time, wouldn't you? Your clients would gladly fit themselves around your schedule because they want the best. The best is in high demand and is therefore not easily available.
All the big brands have always known this philosophy of "behaving successful". They are able to charge a premium simply because they walk and talk like they're worth it. Of course, real substance counts too, but in this world where competition is fiercer every passing day and the field is being increasingly levelled, how you sell yourself is what sets you apart from the rest.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
Expect the Best !
There is a universal law that whatever you expect, you tend to attract. That's why many of us don't get the result we want. We may desire the best, but how many of us really think it's possible? How many of us consistently expect the best?
Throughout the early years of your life you may have learnt to expect the worst. It may have been because your parents were like that and you've adopted the same manner of thinking. Or, it could simply be a negative attitude. But, that too, could have been picked up by associating with someone else.
Or maybe you've developed negative expectations because of past bad experience. Because things have turned out unfavourably before, you believe that they'll continue to be bad. Because you failed before, you find it that much harder to believe that you can succeed the next time round.
But to desire prosperity and success in life, but yet, always expecting misfortune, or to be continually doubting our ability to get what we truly want, is like trying to reach east by traveling west.
A person cannot consistently doubt his or her ability to succeed, and then succeed. These thoughts of doubts will always attract failure.
When you are faced with a difficult circumstance do you expect the worst or the best? Whatever we expect we attract. If it's your habit to always expect the worst you're simply adding fuel to the fire, creating more negative circumstances that will create more negative expectations on your part.
Your beliefs and expectations are the driving force behind your behaviors and your results. If your expectations are fear driven, they will impair your normal functioning and keep you from making positive and long lasting changes in your life.
The good news is, your beliefs and expectations are just habits. Whatever reasons you have developed these habits, if you want to truly change your results, you must, absolutely change your habits of expectation and learn to expect the best.
Like I said before, the reason we possess positive, or negative expectations, is simply due to habits.
A large part of our current circumstances, whether they be positive or negative, are a result of our faith, belief and expectations. If we want to change our circumstances, then obviously, we need to change our faith, belief and expectations.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
Throughout the early years of your life you may have learnt to expect the worst. It may have been because your parents were like that and you've adopted the same manner of thinking. Or, it could simply be a negative attitude. But, that too, could have been picked up by associating with someone else.
Or maybe you've developed negative expectations because of past bad experience. Because things have turned out unfavourably before, you believe that they'll continue to be bad. Because you failed before, you find it that much harder to believe that you can succeed the next time round.
But to desire prosperity and success in life, but yet, always expecting misfortune, or to be continually doubting our ability to get what we truly want, is like trying to reach east by traveling west.
A person cannot consistently doubt his or her ability to succeed, and then succeed. These thoughts of doubts will always attract failure.
When you are faced with a difficult circumstance do you expect the worst or the best? Whatever we expect we attract. If it's your habit to always expect the worst you're simply adding fuel to the fire, creating more negative circumstances that will create more negative expectations on your part.
Your beliefs and expectations are the driving force behind your behaviors and your results. If your expectations are fear driven, they will impair your normal functioning and keep you from making positive and long lasting changes in your life.
The good news is, your beliefs and expectations are just habits. Whatever reasons you have developed these habits, if you want to truly change your results, you must, absolutely change your habits of expectation and learn to expect the best.
Like I said before, the reason we possess positive, or negative expectations, is simply due to habits.
A large part of our current circumstances, whether they be positive or negative, are a result of our faith, belief and expectations. If we want to change our circumstances, then obviously, we need to change our faith, belief and expectations.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
What is Your Life Purpose?
We're going to take it on faith that the deepest part of you DOES know exactly what you are meant to be and do, and has been trying to tell you all along. Today, we're going to see if we can sidestep whatever is blocking that deep sense of knowing and coax a little of it into the light.
Now you can try this now, or at a more convenient time; the questions are important but the phrasing is not crucial, just remember the essence.
After taking a few deep breaths, and quieting your spirit, write whatever comes to you in response to these questions... Remember, it should be spontaneous... no room for wavering or self-judgement. Just let it flow.
First question: if you DID know your life purpose, what would it be?
Second: If you were assured of having all the money you would ever need, but in order to have it, you would be required to volunteer in some capacity, what would you do? What causes matter to you? Who would you want to help? What would be the most fun way to help them?
Third: What do people count on you for? What are your talents? What comes easily to you? Effortlessly? We all have been taught to focus on our weaknesses, in order to improve them, but the real treasure is built by developing what is already a strength!
Next, if you could make three permanent changes in the world, what would they be?
Now take a few minutes to let the dust settle, and see if anything else comes to you. After a few moments of quiet, look back over what you have written. If any ideas jump out at you, write them down without judging.
Look through your writings. Are there any elements that could be connected? Strengthened through collaboration? You know, very often, we think that nothing will come of these pursuits. Not true. We're not thinking of material pursuits here. We're talking self-actualisation. YOU making MEANING and the world being MEANINGFUL to YOU.
Writing down your thoughts and examining them can do much for the road you pave for yourself in this life. You can uncover your life purpose. Try it today.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
Now you can try this now, or at a more convenient time; the questions are important but the phrasing is not crucial, just remember the essence.
After taking a few deep breaths, and quieting your spirit, write whatever comes to you in response to these questions... Remember, it should be spontaneous... no room for wavering or self-judgement. Just let it flow.
First question: if you DID know your life purpose, what would it be?
Second: If you were assured of having all the money you would ever need, but in order to have it, you would be required to volunteer in some capacity, what would you do? What causes matter to you? Who would you want to help? What would be the most fun way to help them?
Third: What do people count on you for? What are your talents? What comes easily to you? Effortlessly? We all have been taught to focus on our weaknesses, in order to improve them, but the real treasure is built by developing what is already a strength!
Next, if you could make three permanent changes in the world, what would they be?
Now take a few minutes to let the dust settle, and see if anything else comes to you. After a few moments of quiet, look back over what you have written. If any ideas jump out at you, write them down without judging.
Look through your writings. Are there any elements that could be connected? Strengthened through collaboration? You know, very often, we think that nothing will come of these pursuits. Not true. We're not thinking of material pursuits here. We're talking self-actualisation. YOU making MEANING and the world being MEANINGFUL to YOU.
Writing down your thoughts and examining them can do much for the road you pave for yourself in this life. You can uncover your life purpose. Try it today.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
Act On Your Intentions
Do you often find yourself procrastinating when it comes to acting on your intentions?
You may have great ideas but you find it difficult to take concrete steps towards making them reality. The days go by and you don't seem any closer to your goals.
Well, having the right intentions is just not good enough. You'll never be able to achieve deep satisfaction or fulfillment if you don't align your motivations with concrete action.
Before you can back up your intentions with action, the first thing to do is to examine the intention. Do you absolutely want to carry it out and are you excited about doing so?
The first step towards turning your plans into reality is to be very clear about your intention and the results you want. One way to do this is to get into the details. Say you feel you need more money top improve your lifestyle. Think about why you need the money. How will it make your life better? Will it give you the power to help your loved ones? Give your parents an expensive holiday every year perhaps? Or will the extra money help you invest in your own home? Hwy is that important?
Make a binding promise to yourself to get things moving the soonest possible. Even if the first few steps seem insignificant, do them anyway! You'll immediately start feeling more empowered and focused on your ideals. If you wait until everything is fully planned out, you'll never start!
Break down your action plan into easy to manage steps, in order to keep your spirits up and the momentum going. And don't make the mistake of thinking that you have to do this alone. Your family, friends, or partner are more than willing to help you. Ask them to keep you focused and disciplined.
Remember this - the strength of your intention is only as good as the action you're prepared to take on a regular basis. Every intention is preceded by a thought. Your thoughts create your emotions and your emotions can prompt you to take the appropriate action. Provided you use them right.
Attain excellence by using your spontaneity, intuition and your natural drive to move forward. Keep your life in flow by having a sense of clear purpose and aliveness.
Invest the time in YOU. Get to know what excites you, what ignites your soul and makes you come alive. When you are in alignment with your true self, your intentions will naturally begin to align themselves with life of pulsation and dynamic action.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
You may have great ideas but you find it difficult to take concrete steps towards making them reality. The days go by and you don't seem any closer to your goals.
Well, having the right intentions is just not good enough. You'll never be able to achieve deep satisfaction or fulfillment if you don't align your motivations with concrete action.
Before you can back up your intentions with action, the first thing to do is to examine the intention. Do you absolutely want to carry it out and are you excited about doing so?
The first step towards turning your plans into reality is to be very clear about your intention and the results you want. One way to do this is to get into the details. Say you feel you need more money top improve your lifestyle. Think about why you need the money. How will it make your life better? Will it give you the power to help your loved ones? Give your parents an expensive holiday every year perhaps? Or will the extra money help you invest in your own home? Hwy is that important?
Make a binding promise to yourself to get things moving the soonest possible. Even if the first few steps seem insignificant, do them anyway! You'll immediately start feeling more empowered and focused on your ideals. If you wait until everything is fully planned out, you'll never start!
Break down your action plan into easy to manage steps, in order to keep your spirits up and the momentum going. And don't make the mistake of thinking that you have to do this alone. Your family, friends, or partner are more than willing to help you. Ask them to keep you focused and disciplined.
Remember this - the strength of your intention is only as good as the action you're prepared to take on a regular basis. Every intention is preceded by a thought. Your thoughts create your emotions and your emotions can prompt you to take the appropriate action. Provided you use them right.
Attain excellence by using your spontaneity, intuition and your natural drive to move forward. Keep your life in flow by having a sense of clear purpose and aliveness.
Invest the time in YOU. Get to know what excites you, what ignites your soul and makes you come alive. When you are in alignment with your true self, your intentions will naturally begin to align themselves with life of pulsation and dynamic action.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
Making a Relationship Work
Philosopher William James once said; "The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook."
When couples first date and fall in love, the emphasis is all on the things they have in common. Often you feel like you've discovered your very own, and one and only, soul-mate, and the blending and compatibility are marvelous. the euphoria of new love has something to do with this; after all, we can become enraptured in the madness of love, if only for a while. Then nerves can set in, as you start to get serious about each other, and you start to get analytical. And constant analysis can often kill a perfectly good relationship.
It's better to focus on how you're feeling at the moment, and stay in the moment. When you start questioning how things are going to be in the future, and feed it with memories of past horror stories, you're sacrificing the real for the unreal.
When you think about it, anything could happened in the future, and many things will happen that you couldn't possibly predict. It's likely the things you're imagining (he'll be unfaithful, she'll turn into a nag) will never happen, and things you could never imagine will happen, so there's really no use in playing it out too far into the future.
The important things to know about are how this person makes you feel, and if your values and attitudes towards marriage match, and a match of energy-level is nice, but even that can change over time. Whether they are a morning-person or a night-person, whether you share every interest in common, and whether the toilet seat should be left up or down are not important in the long run. Those are things to overlook, and things you will have to overlook if you're going to live with someone else.
Relationship do work, and the work of a relationship is being understanding and forgiving, overlooking unimportant things, and being positive and loving; it's not about picking the relationship apart, finding fault, or talking it to death. Live it; don't analyze it.
You can turn something pleasant and fun into work if you want to, but remember that dating is supposed to be fun and love is supposed to feel good! There's so much written these days about relationships, you might even get the impression they're difficult. Give yourself permission to go with a good thing, and give you and your partner credit for basically knowing what to do. You don't need to figure out with your head whether you belong together, in fact your head can get in the way and mess up a good thing. Your heart tells you, if you quiet the analysis, and listen it.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
When couples first date and fall in love, the emphasis is all on the things they have in common. Often you feel like you've discovered your very own, and one and only, soul-mate, and the blending and compatibility are marvelous. the euphoria of new love has something to do with this; after all, we can become enraptured in the madness of love, if only for a while. Then nerves can set in, as you start to get serious about each other, and you start to get analytical. And constant analysis can often kill a perfectly good relationship.
It's better to focus on how you're feeling at the moment, and stay in the moment. When you start questioning how things are going to be in the future, and feed it with memories of past horror stories, you're sacrificing the real for the unreal.
When you think about it, anything could happened in the future, and many things will happen that you couldn't possibly predict. It's likely the things you're imagining (he'll be unfaithful, she'll turn into a nag) will never happen, and things you could never imagine will happen, so there's really no use in playing it out too far into the future.
The important things to know about are how this person makes you feel, and if your values and attitudes towards marriage match, and a match of energy-level is nice, but even that can change over time. Whether they are a morning-person or a night-person, whether you share every interest in common, and whether the toilet seat should be left up or down are not important in the long run. Those are things to overlook, and things you will have to overlook if you're going to live with someone else.
Relationship do work, and the work of a relationship is being understanding and forgiving, overlooking unimportant things, and being positive and loving; it's not about picking the relationship apart, finding fault, or talking it to death. Live it; don't analyze it.
You can turn something pleasant and fun into work if you want to, but remember that dating is supposed to be fun and love is supposed to feel good! There's so much written these days about relationships, you might even get the impression they're difficult. Give yourself permission to go with a good thing, and give you and your partner credit for basically knowing what to do. You don't need to figure out with your head whether you belong together, in fact your head can get in the way and mess up a good thing. Your heart tells you, if you quiet the analysis, and listen it.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
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