Attracting Success

Everyone wants success.

Some people spend their every waking moment pursuing it, to the determent of everything else. At the other end of the spectrum are people who feel that success is impossible. They conclude that it is destined only for a select few. And the rest of us in between are content with whatever we have. We may desire greater success, but we believe somehow that we are not "fated" or "destined" to achieve it.

However, these assumptions could not be further from the truth. When you strive for success with the wrong assumptions, you will never reach it. It's like trying to reach a destination with the wrong map.

You can't hurry success, catch it, or find it by chance. You cannot inherit it, gate-crash it, or take it from someone else. Success is something you must work hard and long to ear, for yourself. It has a price, sometimes a very high one. And most people aren't really and truly ready to pay that price, to do what success demands.

To achieve success, first you must understand that success is a process. It requires time and patience. There are no short cuts. Anything else is just a temporary illusion. Success that will remain with you, and bring you joy rather than sorrow, requires a learning process, a time to grow out of old habits and into new ones, a time to learn what works and what doesn't. So don't be in a hurry.

In order to attain success, you will also need to acquired traits and skills that attract it. Define what success means to you. What traits or skills will you need to achieve this goal? Devise plans to acquire the needs traits and skills. Learn to do what you need to do, to get where you want to go. Find two or three people who have what you want. Write down the habits that have made them successful and resolve to copy them.

And once you have made up your mind to achieve success, you must be ready to travel the road to success, oftentimes alone. Author Les Brown once said that, "At some point in time, the pursuit of your goals becomes secondary and what you have become in the process is what is most important." when infants reach for the toy that their parents have placed some distance away, it's not the toy that's the prize; it's simply motivation for the child to learn something more important, something more lasting, and that is to learn to crawl, and of course, to finally walk and run! It's to strengthen their muscles so they can reach for other goals in life.

Anyone can success, but not everyone will. And success differs for each person. It's your definition, and your decision.

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Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd