Many working couples boil it down to the lack of time... and though poor time management is one of the culprits, there are several other factors at play.
Many professionals are so involved with their work that it consumes their thoughts and actions. They are usually very passionate about their work and are very successful in their field. They feel respected and empowered at work and when they come home, they expect the relationship to do the same for them. Unfortunately, a happy marriage does not happen by default.
You may be the boss at the office and might not have compromise much in your professional capacity, but the dynamics are radically different when you switch back to being a spouse and a lover. If you are used to getting your way at work, you may find it difficult to negotiate at home.
The key to making a dual career relationship work is mutual respect. Honour the work that your spouse does. Never make light of it or speak poorly of it. Respect your partner's professional aspirations and don't always expect that you come first in every situation.
Coordinate your schedule with your spouse's. At least once a week, plan an activity you can both enjoy - it could be a night out, an afternoon by the beach or even a game of Scrabble. Interaction within a fun and relaxed space is crucial to keeping your relationship loving and rewarding - it reminds both of you that your marriage is more than just household or parental responsibilities.
And never stop communicating with your spouse - and I don't mean yet another reminder about fixing the car or applying for that loan - share your real emotions, dreams and hopes, even something as simple as a compliment.
Keep that special connection open.
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
