Consider these steps:
First, choose to concentrate on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses. Confidence comes from within. You have to concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Remember the past if over; you can only change the future.
If you have trouble doing this, write down ten positive things about yourself. People often find it very helpful to actually see the words.
Concentrate on your potentials. These are the reasons why you should love yourself and believe in yourself. Give yourself credit for every successful or good thing that you do.
Next, remind yourself of past successes. Confidence builds on past success. The more you do this, the more convinced you'll be that it's possible to succeed again. Most people unfortunately can't help focusing on what they did wrong in the past. This failure to forget and let go damages their self-confidence.
Also, learn to take risks. Risk is a crucial part of life: it is necessary before any great success can be achieved. If you spend your life avoiding risk, you will never experience all that life has to offer.
Cultivate an enthusiasm for trying out new things. Once you get past that initial barrier, you will find that's it's very empowering. Yes, you will fail sometimes but the lessons and experiences are invaluable. As you do and try more, your confidence level increases because you realise that you become more and more knowledgeable.
Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn instead of occasions to win or lose.
Next, use self-talk as an opportunity to contradict destructive beliefs. For example, if you catch yourself expecting perfection, tell yourself that you can't do everything perfectly; that it's only possible to do your best.
And visualise your future success. Our minds cannot distinguish the difference between something real and something vividly imagined.
What will your future look like, smell like, taste like, and feel like?
Who will be with you and where will you be? How will you be feeling?
Placing this much vivid detail into your mind increases the likelihood of success and supports greater confidence!
Eugine Loh, 938Live, MediaCorp Pte Ltd
